Relapse Identification and Prevention Plan.

 Introduction to Domestic Violence Anger Management for Healthy Expression-Lesson TWENTY-FIVE

 Written by Anger Specialist
 Yvonne Sinclair M.A.

Relapse Identification and Prevention Plan.

 Sometimes when we are caught “being bad,” or the anger subsides and we wonder “what have I done,” we feel sorry. We cannot imagine behaving in the same manner again. However, if we do not change our thinking patterns, communication style, control issues, parenting approach and self care we will slip back into the old mode when under stress.

This is the purpose of the relapse identification and prevention plan. It helps you notice when you are getting in a dangerous mood or behavior. Just as noticing your feelings so you could express them early works for anger management, this prevention will decrease the threat of violent behaviors.

If alcohol or drug use exacerbates your inability to control your behaviors, it is your responsibility to find assistance for your addiction, abuse, or use. Being drunk is not an excuse for violent crimes. You are the one responsible for deciding to use the substance, and you are responsible for whatever behaviors you choose.

Print out this chapter-PDF is provided at the beginning.

Fill out this form below and save it for additions as they occur to you. What are my feelings and attitudes that fuel my violent tendencies?

1.     What are the triggers for my anger?

2.     What self-talk fuels my angry feelings?

  3.     What are my rights? What are the rights of those who live with me?How do I respect their rights?

4.     What happened in my family of origin that began my violent behaviors?

  5.     What do I tell myself to allow me to hurt someone else?

  6.     What can I do to prevent letting myself get to the stressed-out place where I take it out on others?                                         

 

7. Does alcohol or drug use exacerbate your violent behaviors and reduce your ability react in a healthy manner?  What do you plan to do about that use if the answer is yes?

 

List the social support that will be a positive influence on you keeping your cool, respecting the rights of others, and creating a loving environment for yourself and your family; Here is a list for yourself, to assist in preventing your anger or old behaviors from destroying your life or the life of another.

*What can I do immediately to deal with the ways of acting, feeling, or distorted thinking which lead me to be inappropriate or violent?

*Who can I call to get support on this issue? Make a list of names and phone numbers.

* If alcohol or drugs is an issue – join an AA or NA group and acquire a sponsor.

*What do you want the person you call for support to do?

*What can you do to prevent interactions with potential victims?

*What are some realistic self-talk statements I can make to myself to defuse my anger and violent patterns? Make a list.

 

 

Please fill out the forms with care. They are here to keep you and those around you safe. The final chapter will be a review of all 26. Please read it and keep a printed copy of this class for your reference. Good luck and I wish you well.

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